first If I say no, the other reject me. I consider it important for his sympathy.
counter-argument: This is just a guess. You can only know if you've tried it. If the others like you just because you always do what he expects from you: What a strange kind of sympathy is that?
second If I say no, I'm to blame when the other is disappointed or get in trouble. He has relied on me yet.
counter-argument: This may be so, but maybe he has sympathy for your situation? Moreover, if his work so that he plans to create it can only if you take over a part of it is his responsibility, not yours! Finally, he would ask in time and, eventually, to take care of alternatives.
third If I say no, I feel the cold and selfish. I would not be, that makes me a bad conscience.
counter-argument: Selfish is rather the other, the advantage of your willingness to help without shame. It is not heartless or selfish to make sure that your own wishes not to miss. Do this and the other clear.
4th If I say no, there will be noise. The other will be aggressive.
counter-argument: Granted, conflicts are not pleasant. If your rejection but confident, calm and friendly, say, the other will develop in the long run respect for you, maybe because you are not anything to take. And at a pinch, you can cancel the call even still, if the other should be abusive.
5th When I say No, I risk the goodwill of my colleagues, employees or supervisors, I lose the job or even my job.
counter-argument: if you say always and in every situation No, you may fear this could actually be right. If you only do it if it is necessary, others are learning to respect you and take your requests seriously.
6th When I say No, I will hang the others. The need me yet, because they clearly are not alone.
counter-argument: Of course it is easy for others, a person who at any time a hurry with advice and assistance, in close have to. Then you do not have to think and act. In fact, do yourself a favor if you stop your colleagues or partners, even to seek solutions and to take responsibility.
7th Now when I say No, the other requests is not meeting my future also.
counter-argument: Break free from the idea that more and one hand washes the other. If you do not make it clear that your Yes is connected with the desire for reciprocity, no one will probably remember your "good deeds".
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